I read a book
I was able to brag this to my mates on Monday morning over coffee. I used to be a prolific reader – as a child I would read the cereal box at breakfast time if there was nothing else available. I don’t know if I’ve ever been a fast reader but I was perfectly capable of borrowing half a dozen books, usually all fiction, from the library and reading them in a week. I can’t do that any more. I consult computer manuals, I refer to training guides…I write training guides. I read and write blog posts. The first thing I do when I was up in the morning is read the news headlines on my phone. So I definitely read – I absorb information from all around me, but often in snippets, in passing, as needed or wanted. It’s pretty rare that I will make a conscious or even subconscious decision to sit down and read a book.
Joyce Farmer’s memoir chronicles the decline of the author’s parents’ health, their relationship with one another and with their daughter, and how they cope with the day-to-day emotional fragility of the most taxing time of their lives. Elderly parents Lars and Rachel, who have enjoyed a long and loving married life together, are rendered in fine, confident pen lines. Set in southern Los Angeles (which makes for a terrifying sequence as blind Rachel and ailing Lars are trapped in their home without power during the 1992 Rodney King riots), backgrounds and props are lovingly detailed: these objects serve as memory triggers for Lars and Rachel, even as they eventually overwhelm them and their home, which the couple is loathe to leave.
And so the elderly Lars and Rachel, as observed and aided by daughter Laura (apparently a lightly fictionalized Joyce), stumble toward the Exit. Neither heroes nor villains, all three appear well intentioned but careless and naive. Yet while their story is poignant, the characters also find moments of joy in flashes of new intimacy, favorite memories, and fresh insights. More a biography of Lars and Rachel than of Farmer herself, this account does not interpret so much as record unflinchingly and gracefully a distinctly ungraceful and universal process rarely faced by most of us until necessary. With realistic black-and-white art functioning like a TV camera, it will educate the still-naive and offer recognition to those familiar with the path already.

Special exits : a graphic memoir by Joyce Farmer





























